our first punishment blog centers on the importance of being upfront and honest when dissent and disagreement lead to confrontation. open communication is essential to understanding each other's points of view; whereas harbouring resentment and ill-will only leads to negative reactions and misunderstanding. i would like you to share your ideas on this subject. how do you deal with confrontation? are you direct in your approach, or more passive and resentful? if you do not like confrontation, what is you fear? what is the worst that can happen? this is an editorial, so i am asking for your opinion.
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ReplyDeleteBeing able to own up to one’s actions and face responsibility is one of the many critical talents of life. In regard to any conflict or disagreement, it is important for one to be conscious of their actions, whether one is guilty or innocent. Every conflict is centered around two different opinions, presented by two or more opposing sides. The best and most effective way of surpassing any type of conflict between two parties is to be honest and open. If both, or even one party holds back information, lies, or does not confront the other, it can only lead to violence and negative feelings towards the other party(s). Accepting one’s mistakes, and confronting a problem head on is key if either party wishes to avoid further arguments. If the two or more parties do not swiftly resolve the argument, the current standing between them will only worsen. Although recognizing that one’s actions were erroneous is never a simple task, following any confession comes relief. If anyone wishes to live life as free from regret and sadness as possible, coming to terms with actions, arguments, and disagreements with others is the only plausible way to obtain peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteConfrontation stems from human’s nature to excel through competition. Confronting one’s problems head on is similar to having a debate between the confronter and the one being confronted. It is natures’ way of allowing only the fittest to survive. It comes down to Darwin’s theory of natural selection, those who shy away from confrontation are simply unfit to live in the problem filled world that exists. If one is too timid to accost one’s problem that human is simply is not the most fit.
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Confrontation is programmed into life's primal nature. Evolution and natural processes cannot go on without confrontation, battles, and fighting. Confrontation is developed from competition which is developed from a natural instinct to survive by all creatures. Natural Selection is to blame for this, but without competition, there will be no development and therefore all species will die out, the whole Earth will fail in life processes and doom wil happen.
However dissent and argument is a good concept as well, and many positive things comes out of "confrontation." Person to person, Confrontation is caused by numerous factors, irritating people, different ideologies that are by chance going to come in conflict with one another, or just plain dislike of another person. Dislike of another person without no explantion is usually irrational and nothing can be helped. There is no reason behind this dislike, however people on both ends can help mellow down this mutual dislike of both parties...or come in eternal conflict. Conflict will always be there, and it is evident throughout all life.
In my opinion, confrontation is not something one should fear or worry about. Confrontation is necessary at times, and everyone will be involved in one at least once in their lifetime. While it is better to be honest and to avoid confrontation, one can not avoid it for their entire life. Confrontations are usually not settled immediately, as they are mostly started by disagreement. When I am involved in a confrontation, I try to open-mindedly listen to what others have to say while taking a direct approach. If I care enough about something to argue with someone who disagrees with me, I am going to take it very seriously and passionately. My only problem with confrontation is that I could possibly go overboard and take it way too intensely. In addition, if I am stubborn throughout the confrontation, the whole thing would be useless for me; I like to listen what other people have to say, whether or not I agree or disagree with it. It might just be me, but I do not see what is to fear by interacting in a confrontation at all. If you stay under control, what is the worst that can happen? The other person will disagree with you? If everyone in this world agreed about everything, conversation would lack emotion and the world would be so much boring. Confrontation is something one should always try to avoid, but it is not something one should fear.
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ReplyDeleteWanting to say something to someone's face takes a lot of courage. If fury accumulates over time, the desire to get the point across becomes increasingly urgent. When and if there is an opportunity for things to be said without revealing an identity, the person would jump at that favorable circumstance immediately. The cowardice of being “anonymous” is something that many people would want to take advantage of. Everyone is born with courage. People just have to recognize the need for that trait in their daily lives. As Bob Marley once stated, “Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don't complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don't bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality. Wake Up and Live.” When he says to not “bury your thoughts,” he is basically saying to speak whatever is on one's mind. Bottling up anger and thoughts is so much more unhealthy and dangerous than saying what one wants to say when he or she wants to say it. Despite this, there is a fine line between blurting out obscenities and talking about things in a mature manner. The United States Constitution gives the American citizen the right to freedom of speech. This does not, however, allow everyone to go through life shouting at someone if they become aggravated. Such behavior would cause the earth to plunge into World War III. There is a way to confront problems effectively yet remain peaceful.
Small confrontations are very important in society. They allow for one to release feelings of anger and ill-will without manifesting into major blowouts. I believe that with confrontation honesty is always best, even if the truth hurts. This is because when being honest you can always defend yourself by reinforcing that you were simply stating the truth, and no one can argue with that (even if it is not what they want to hear). This release of emotions ultimately benefits everyone, and allows for society to function. It is when these emotions are bottled up and oppressed that acts such as murder are committed.
ReplyDeleteOn the topic of maturely solving conflicts, there are infinite “pros,” but not a single “con.” Many people have the misconception that somehow using force, violence, or insults is the most effective way to get their point across. The only point made during actions like these is that the person is immature and afraid to speak freely and openly about his/her feelings. Some might even hide behind childish forms of anonymity to avoid actual face-to-face debate. Confrontation is useful to resolve conflicts between two parties, but can only be useful when and if the problem is stated maturely and settled with a conversation rather than an argument. Solving conflicts intelligently is a natural and healthy part of life because anyone who doesn’t, at some point, have problems is probably involved with illegal and harmful mood- enhancing narcotics.
ReplyDeleteIt is important to live by the phrase "honesty is the best policy", because when you are honest there is always less of a chance that you will be hurt or punished. Avoiding confrontation is always the best way to go through life, because by flying under the radar and minding your own business, there is less of a chance that you will get into trouble or dramatic situations. However, sometimes confrontation is necessary, especially when the problem at hand requires certain truths that have not yet been voiced. All confrontations take courage and mutual respect, and if done correctly, both sides will benefit greatly. Personally, confrontation does not frighten me, simply because I am very opinionated and I almost always have a case. However, confronting a friend or someone close to me is sometimes hard because I tend to be too sympathetic, and I weaken at times when I should be defending myself or voicing my side. I do strongly believe that if you did something wrong, you need to accept it and apologize to whoever it is you hurt. Although difficult, confrontation is a necessary part of life and if you cannot accept the worst ramifications then there is only you to blame, because only you are responsible for your actions.
ReplyDeleteWhile countless people find confrontations uncomfortable and even try to avoid them whenever possible, they are inevitable. The human race is controlled by anger, hostility, tension, jealousy, and constant battles. Arguments and disagreements are part of human nature, although many shy, outspoken individuals would rather not act in a violent way. However, when these shy people bottle up their emotions, the anger builds up until they cannot stand it anymore. They may decide to lash out at whatever the problem is, or complain to everyone except for the one causing the problem. However, issues can only be resolved once they are faced, and one cannot truly face their issues until they speak their mind and the other party listens. The one provoking the anger needs to be aware that there is a problem in order for anything to be resolved. To settle disputes, people need to overcome their cowardice and face their problems.
ReplyDeleteConflict resolution is a skill many people need to develop. Honesty is a very important part of conflict resolution, as it prevents misunderstandings. Misunderstandings and confusion only make problems worse. Insults are an incredibly childish method to resolving conflicts. Shouting immature insults back and forth at one another will not solve anything. It is best to directly state any issues one might have with another person. Talking trash behind their back will also not help anything, because that person would still be unaware that there is a problem. Conflict resolution does require a certain level of maturity and self-restraint. It can be practiced by anyone who is willing to try to resolve a conflict maturely.
ReplyDeleteConfrontation could be a positive experience when handled it in a constructive manner. In order to solve a predicament, one must be open to a different point of view. Although this takes time and effort, each moment is well spent because for that instant one is pushing for the ultimate outcome, understanding. There is no reason or rhyme to fighting, or hurtful phrases; it should no longer matter who is “better.” Instead, the true objective should be to value the thoughts presented by each person. One never truly comprehends the situation of another, and with this anger built inside, the situation can only worsen. One must let out his/her feelings in a relaxed condition, and ultimately enjoy the company one shares with another. Time is a gift that needs to be cherished and each moment must remain worthwhile; one cannot waste it by separating his/herself from his/her true emotions. Forever be oneself in the most genuine light, and exhibit greatness found in each person. Once one realizes that undesirable battles are a lost cause, the feelings of unity and friendship replace the sadness and uncertainty engraved in one’s being.
ReplyDeletePeople consider communication to be vital to maintaining healthy, stable relationships. However, in my opinion, there is a fine line between sufficient amounts of communication and an overload of communication. The saying “know when to pick your battles” comes to my mind when communication is brought up. For example, if someone is truly doing something that bothers me, I will talk to them to try and get them to stop. In addition, if someone does something that only mildly bothers me, than I will just let it go. Unfortunately, sometimes when I do confront people I tend to do it in an offensive or demeaning way, instead of talking in a respectable manner. I believe it is usually easier to just complain to others about that person than communicate with them. Although I do communicate with people I must admit that I have trash talked or complained about others in the past and will most likely continue to do so. Communication can be intimidating because you do not know how the person will react. In my opinion, it is human nature to simply talk about others behind their back, but people need to communicate respectfully in order to avoid conflict.
ReplyDeleteRemember back in the first grade when the school bully picked on you or someone you were close too? Your parents and teacher always told you speak up for yourself. This concept holds true throughout one’s life, weather you are the person being picked on or the one causing the problems. Many people feel that they are able to solve a problem by making others feel insignificant. That however causes more drama than is necessary for others. The best way to solve a problem with someone else is through communication. It is important that if you have a problem with someone that they know about it. That way both parties are able to work through their differences and move on. Even if the parties are unable to come to an agreement they can take each others feeling into consideration in the future. Confrontation and honesty have always been the best way to solve a problem and always will be.
ReplyDelete“If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it at all”. This famous saying is not necessarily true. For if one has negative feelings about a situation or an action, they need to confront the person responsible in order to fix the conflict instead of keeping those feelings bottled up because they’re not “nice”. One can learn much through confrontation which may in the end help one understand more about a conflict, instead of acting immaturely and not taking full responsibility for their feelings. There is nothing frightening about confrontation and once one can take on this responsibility they will be able to adjust their opinions from their self centered personality to one more educated, more enlightened, that involves opinions of others. Many people have a rough time finding this inner ability to confront others, but this is a necessary quality one must obtain, and preferably one that must be obtained QUICKLY.
ReplyDeleteOften, when speaking one’s mind, he or she is guaranteed to cross someone with a different opinion and bold enough to confront or challenge his or her theory. When someone proposes an idea, another individual will always find some reason not to believe or agree with the individual. Because we live in such an argumentative society, this often discourages one to propose his or her idea. However, he or she may not back down, despite the negativity expressed towards their beliefs. When I am confronted about an idea that I have, I am willing to either fight for what I believe in or agree with the individual that my idea is not the best. Some might fear confrontation because they do not want to be proven wrong or mocked. However, I believe that the individual is not always correct and therefore should be told so. Choosing to accept this is not because of fear, but because of the bravery to admit one’s fault. The difference between admitting one’s mistake and avoiding confrontation by simply agreeing can be distinguished by the fear of rejection. Having the courage to stand for what you believe in shows your individuality, however even the wise must learn from the wiser (by admitting fault) instead of believing that their way is the only way. The fear of confrontation and rejection should not discourage the individual, but encourage them to speak freely of what they believe. No man or woman is limited to their right of sharing knowledge or opinion, and must accept the negativity and confrontation that follows. In my opinion, to be afraid of what others think is just an act insecurity that will eventually have to be encountered in order to succeed in life.
ReplyDeleteA good amount of people hate disagreements because of the possibility of either being humiliated, resented, or embarrassed. Those chances are deemed not worth taking, and people simply shrug matters aside and pretend they don't exist, lie, or shift the blame to someone else. All of these options do nothing to aid the problem at hand, but instead makes matters worse by causing misunderstanding by lack of communication. Even though people know this, they will flee. People, by nature, are cowards to conflict. The most definite way of handling the situation is to not hide from it, but to confront it. Doing so will end the matter sooner and avoid any possible miscommunications.
ReplyDeleteIn the book, Crucial Confrontations, the author Kerry Patterson defines confrontation as the act of holding someone accountable, face to face. Patterson’s research concluded that those who were best at dealing with confrontation were also the ones who were great leaders. I feel that those who confront the best, are those who are the most open minded for change; for change to occur, one must create new expectations that eventually may or may not be violated. As Kerry Patterson would agree, I believe that a confrontation will be resolved solely by honesty and responsibility. Obviously, each opposing side of the argument will have different beliefs that are equally significant. Therefore, each party must closely listen to the other’s ideas, respond honestly, and be open for criticism in order to resolve the conflict. In the end, owning up to one’s actions, whether right or wrong, would be the correct conclusion to any conundrum in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteConfrontation is, personally, a face to face discussion of opposing terms and the consequences can range from a fight to an instant agreement. This act has occurred throughout life and is a necessary part of everyday life. If every single being was too shy to confront another person or simply ask a question, each person in the world would be alone and without the materialistic necessities that we have today. I myself try to avoid confrontations but, as Thomas Paine wrote in “Common Sense”, it is a necessary evil. We need confrontations in this world, like as people we need the protection a government offers and in order to gain what we want the most, sacrifices must be made along the way.
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Right off the bat, the ominous tone of this blog beseeches me to want to avoid confrontation for now on. However, truthfully I believe that without confrontation life would be impossible to control and vastly unentertaining. I do resent violent and fatal confrontation but I feel many times passive means are simply not enough to get the job done. Martin Luther King Junior’s civil disobedience may have been the quarter stone to civil rights but what if Malcolm X and other radicals hadn’t taken the brunt of racists’ fists? Had sit-ins, freedom rides, and bloody Sunday not occurred isn’t it possible that many new protesters and supporters would have remained riddled with apathy and ignorance? Sometimes extreme measures must be taken to leave an impression in the mind of an opponent. For example, in debates the soft spoken kid may make a valid point but the child with a voice like a mega-phone that’s replete with emotion almost always leaves the impact. I feel in many situations peaceful solutions are not always possible till after the hard part, the direct confrontation. Mind you, I do very clearly see the sense in anyone who feels confrontation is dangerous. But if history speaks for itself, every road to change is paved with danger; if you want to get there you have to be willing to fight for what you believe in.
ReplyDeleteConfronting someone, especially an elder, takes a lot of courage. Not everyone has enough courage to confront somebody because they are afraid of the outcome. If one is not up front and honest with another, it may lead to something which may lead into something else. If that ends up being something bad, one will be put in a sticky situation because they did not have enough courage to confront that person. When it comes to confronting someone, there are different types of people; some may be shy, while others are bold and confronting comes naturally to them. Usually, in the beginning of a confrontation a lot of disagreeing takes place. There are some people out there who are not afraid of the outcome, and there are people who are. Not everyone likes being shut down, or wrong. If one is wrong they feel as if they have failed. Some people can express this in different ways, by blatantly standing there point, or by not speaking at all during the confrontation, and quietly listening as others go on and on about things that one just disagrees with. I am one who will strongly have an opinion, but will not stand up for myself in an argument. Confrontation may be necessary at times, however, it is not always a necessity.
ReplyDeleteMiscommunication is often an element when it comes to disagreements. When one side of the argument holds back their opinions, they can leave the other side misinformed. This is why being direct and honest during a confrontation is best for both sides. By giving up all honest information, both parties can receive the whole picture of the confrontation and work on that to reach a settlement. Although it may not satisfy everyone, by being open about the situation, it allows people to be rational about the outcome rather than thinking only of their own issues. Through honest discussion and confrontation, most disagreements should come to a peaceful end rather than through passive implications.
ReplyDeleteHonesty is essential to a society of free individuals. After all, if we cannot speak truthfully about who we are, then who are we? But not everything necessarily needs to be shared: everybody needs a part of themselves to keep. This may seem contradictory, but it is possible simply because people see what they want to see, rarely asking questions about the parts of a person that are not obvious: the almost subconscious fears, desires, resentments, and insecurities, that the person theirself is hardly aware of. When these parts permeate one's outer persona, resulting in surprising actions, an explanation is necessary. Yet, when these actions take away the power and rights of others, it is completely justified to turn their own darker sides against them. If they have excessive anger and a need to control, cause them endless, sourceless frustrations; if they have a false self-image, tell them what they really are. In a way, this is the best punishment for our anonymous blogger, since they obviously have a need to assert their total brilliance and hilarity where everyone can see, even if it's only for a bit of pride and adrenaline; now, they are reduced to an annoyance, their high self-image is (probably) shattered, and they are forced to acknowledge the parts of theirself they are not so proud of. (If there was a way it could avoid affecting the rest of us, though, that would be a lot better.)
ReplyDeleteBy the way, is theirself a word? Or themself? It says they're both wrong but I know there has to be a word for that.
ReplyDeleteConfrontation is key in all healthy relationships. There is absolutely no reason to fear confrontation, because whatever that situation may be, things can only improve through communication. When I confront someone, I am extremely direct. There is no point in beating around the bush and sugar coating the truth, especially if you want the other person to completely understand and comprehend what you are trying to say. While there will always be an underlying fear of getting into a yelling match, it is necessary to be sincere and say how you really feel. However, there is a difference between being confrontational and just being obnoxious. Confrontation takes effort and thought to put feelings into words in order to solve a problem. It is obnoxious to start yelling without filtering to purposefully offend someone without trying to improve the situation.
ReplyDeleteThe feelings before confronting someone are usually fear and apprehension especially when meeting with a teacher or boss. There are many fears that one faces before approaching someone who they have a specific problem with. One might worry whether the person they are speaking with will be annoyed at their request to discuss a trivial matter, if they will respond in a hostile way, or simply ignore their point of view. However without confrontation one's opinion will never be heard. Although it takes a great deal of courage to confront someone, once one’s feelings are expressed there is a great feeling of relief and satisfaction.
ReplyDeleteMany of the meager problems in society become blown out of proportion due to the unwillingness of human beings to openly confront a problem. It is a part of human’s belligerent nature to disagree, but settle the debacle in catastrophic ways. Many perceive aggression and force the best options to make ones point, when in reality this merely shows the biasness and lack of tolerance for different vantage points. Personally, I am very open and understanding when faced with confrontations. I merely speak the truth and expect the same from the aggressor. I think the best way to solve confrontations is by terminating them before they are blown out of proportion. I would rather speak face to face with the aggressor, than let rumors build and have to deal with a crisis. There is no need to jeopardize something getting out of hand, when it can be solved in a peaceful manner.
ReplyDeleteAlthough confrontation is intimidating, it is the most efficient way to avoid further conflict in a situation. The only way to truly get to the bottom of a problem is to stand up confidently and confront the problem in order to solve it, or at least improve it. Confrontation is beneficial when it is done with honesty, integrity, and for good intentions; however, when done in a negative or mean- spirited manner, it only digs deeper into the drama. Opposing a person with your argument takes away guilt, along with lifting a large burden off of someone’s shoulders. I feel that it is healthy to have a mature, open debate rather than bottling up resentment until the point where it starts to hurt one’s self and others around. Some are scared to admit they have done something wrong because of their reputation. However, what they don’t know is that others will respect them for bravely addressing the issue. What is there to fear in confrontation? I think that the most frightful factor of confrontation is gaining the confidence to stand up and do it in the first place; after that, it all gets easier.
ReplyDeleteConfrontation and arguing, although undesirable in some cases, are key components to human development. In an argument people fight for their opinions and ideas no matter how radical they are. In a favorable setting both sides to the argument are able to successfully back their point of view and some sort of agreement or settlement is made in favor to one side. As a product of this confrontation one person is able to learn from his or her mistakes and benefit from the knowledge they have received from someone else. This would be the appropriate way of dealing with something and this is the kind of argument I would support. Some times, if not most, disagreements are quickly blown out of proportion and a simple conflict of interest turns into something much worse. People are unable to back up their side of the argument and therefore turn to childish actions. Although it is not easy for anyone to accept the fact that they are wrong, the alternate is much worse. Even though I myself try to avoid confrontation as much as possible, it is sometimes easier to confront a problem head on than to avoid it and let the situation worsen.
ReplyDeleteConfrontations are actually quite beneficial and relieving to the participating individuals. In a good confrontation—a healthy experience which shouldn’t be resisted—one should be able to challenge the opposing individuals without fear of ill-treatment. Many believe that all confrontations result in a compromise of some sort; this would be false. Confrontations merely aid in eliminating misunderstandings and discrepancies. Simply because a confrontation occurs, does not mean a compromise must be reached. The goal is that those participating will gain an understanding of the other’s point of view and possibly even sway the other’s opinion. If the individuals do not reach an agreement, they should at least be able to understand the reasoning supporting each other’s actions and therefore tolerate the other’s feelings towards the matter.
ReplyDeleteIrving Kristol once said,“The really difficult moral issues arise, not from a confrontation of good and evil, but from a collision between two goods.” Many individuals let the fear of confrontation overpower the importance of honesty and being upfront with others. Dreading confrontation is expecting in human nature; however, the significance of open communication is crucial to understanding each other’s points of view. The fear results from the emotions and reactions that the person being confronted may or may not give. If no one faced their fears and open communication was inexistent, nothing would get accomplished. Therefore, the good that results from confrontation is what carries our country’s success. Kristol believes that when two goods collide, moral issues will occur because it leads to disagreement. On the other hand, when an issue is not addressed, the situation is more than often misunderstood. Although confrontation does not necessarily lead to automatic forgiveness, it will lead to less problems in the long run. Owning up to one’s mistakes and speaking what is on your mind is a trait that every individual must inquire in order for any good to come from a situation.
ReplyDeleteBottling up feelings and emotions towards someone cause an endless amount of negative outcomes. When you are not being honest and direct about how you feel, you are hurting yourself and the people around you. When you are honest, problems get solved, misunderstandings clear up, and the people involved can deal with the outcome correctly, because they are now aware of the truth. However, some are afraid of confrontation, perhaps because of the punishment or the effects that come afterwards. This fear cannot be worse than the feeling of guilt, anger, sadness, disappointment, or whatever emotion you feel, building up and eating away inside of you. If handled maturely, confrontation can settle an unimaginable amount of disagreements rather than hiding yourself and your issues.
ReplyDeleteConfrontations must first be well though out. One should know they type of person they are confronting and have legitimate reasons for doing so. I, personally, would not confront a person unless I feel passionate about the topic or issue. Confrontations can be scary because one is never sure what they other person is going to say. Everything is said on the spot and the person has no real time to think. Many bad things can come out of a confrontation and it all has to do with power. If a student confronts a teacher, the teacher has the power to write that student up. If a freshman confronts an upperclassman, the freshman will most likely be shut down because, as I have learned from past experiences, seniority rules all. For the most part, I tend to be straight forward and direct with confrontations. I try really hard not to lose my temper; however, because I find that in the end, it is never really worth it
ReplyDeleteTo put it simply, the reason anyone would be afraid to own up to his or her actions is because of the unknown consequence. Let’s call this person a “vandal,” and I am going to refer to the vandal as a male for easier communication, and for no other reason whatsoever. If a vandal were aware of the future consequence for his past action, it would be easier for him to own up to his destruction. Knowing one’s punishment makes it a whole lot easier to accept. However, since the consequence is so unknown and so mysterious, the anonymity of it eats away at the vandal’s conscience until he concludes that the outcome will be the worst possible ramification. In this case, whoever committed this misdeed is probably contemplating deeply what the worst punishment could possible be at this very moment.
ReplyDeleteConflict is a natural part of life. If there was no conflict and no compromise one view would always be implemented creating a monarchal lifestyle. It is important to have dissent and disagreement so one power never become too controlling. Many people believe in a completely peaceful world without disagreement but that is only because of a fear of confrontation. Confrontation is nothing to be apprehensive of if it is handled in the correct way and in a mature manner. Although an understanding approach should always be implemented first to resolve any conflict sometimes a greater action is necessary. In agreement with Dilger, “many times passive means are simply not enough to get the job done”. For example, many people do not agree with the United States current War on Drugs but instead of sitting back and letting the government waste billions of dollars every year on a war that can not be won and incarcerate over one million non-violent drug users the people are attempting to resolve this conflict in numerous different ways. Kevin Booth took a direct approach while addressing the war on drugs when he directed a movie called American Drug War: the Last White Hope to inform the people of the war on drugs. Other people take a passive approach by simply disregarding the law and taking drugs anyway, fully aware of the consequences. Conflicts can be resolved in a number of different ways but putting off confrontation will only make the problem snowball out of control and in the end be more difficult to resolve.
ReplyDeleteConfrontation is life’s way of solving disagreements. While most people feel confrontation is a bad thing, it is, in fact, a great thing. Open communication helps release one’s feelings, which others do not know about. Showing your feelings can help lead to a solution to a problem. Hiding those feelings by not confronting the person directly, or “anonymously”, is not a good way to end disagreements. It does not truly show the other side of the argument. It is just stating the reader’s thoughts while not stating the other opinion. People should solve their misunderstandings by confronting their aggressor, and stating their opinion.
ReplyDeleteConfrontation is undeniable no matter what one's approach to it is. If one is passive and tries to avoid the argument at all costs, it will lead to more internal problems later on. However, ones who are outspoken can ameliorate the situation by ending the argument by making their opinions known and leading to open communication. A lack of communication will only lead to more confrontation. Personally, I am a very passive person and try to avoid confrontation no matter what the situation. The only times I have been outspoken and put my opinions out there led me to more trouble than I had before with my passiveness. However, those who are passive are filled with regret like wishing they had said something they did not . When one side of the argument thinks it is resolved, the other one can be filled with resentment still. Although being passive is a helpful expedient, it leaves one with more problems then before. Open communication is a key to healthy relationships. It is better to get in trouble for your outspokenness then be filled with regret with what you could have said to end the confrontation. The superior approach to a confrontation is to be honest to gain a relationship with open communication.
ReplyDeleteMany problems occur in relationships due to the lack of a person’s ability to deal with their feelings in a constructive matter. Confrontation should not be something people fear, but rather something people look to as a positive release of their emotions. While confrontations are a good thing, they can be used in a negative manner if people express their feelings in an irrational way. I feel the best way to approach somebody when you are feeling a problem emerging is by first learning to control your own emotions. After doing this, they can be conveyed to the aggressor in reasonable way that would leave them open to hearing your feelings. By yelling and screaming at a person, one is likely to automatically tune you out before they can even understand the message you are trying to communicate. Also, a person must be open to the fact that they very well may be wrong in the argument and have to be willing to hear the other person’s views as well. People also need to learn to not allow their emotions to consume their actions because they will not be able to control themselves, due to the lack of logic being used in their reasoning. Confrontations can be used to either blow up a situation into something more then it is or help resolve the argument.
ReplyDeleteIn the process of confrontation, one should first reflect upon the possible outcomes of said confrontation. Reprimand is amongst the first possible outcomes perceived in a period of such reflection. Indeed in many confrontations such an outcome is imminent, reprimand most likely coming from an authority figure. It is in situations such as these, with the looming thought of punishment, that cowardice presents itself among those too fearful to speak out despite such consequences. Anonymity shields such a coward from reprimand, hiding such terrified losers from a punishment that would be no more than a slap on the wrist, apparently too much for their frail moral fortitude. Confrontation, at its best, should be face-to-face and one should hold nothing back. In my opinion, only the cowards and weaklings of the world would hind behind the veil of anonymity, the weak man’s shield. A true confrontation may even end with raging and shouting, showing the fierce reality behind confrontation; only the strong-willed have the moral fortitude to stand behind their beliefs despite what may come. In the words of Mark Twain, “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear”. Those with courage enough to resist the possible fear of impending punishment and persevere are those who do not cower behind the shield of anonymity. The only true penance for the utter weakness shown in anonymous confrontation is for the anonymous one to reveal themselves as heartless cowards they are and attest to their spinelessness, only then can such a borderline human being begin the path to freedom from cowardice.
ReplyDelete^^^Here’s to you anonymous blogger. Grow a backbone and confess.
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ReplyDeleteIn the words of Immanuel Kant “ Honesty is better than any policy”. No policy will advertise yourself and your true feelings on a subject when faced with confrontation and disagreement better than honesty. Honest open communication is the only way to start to understand other peoples points of view, but a common misconception that many people hold which makes seeing others views on a subject impossible is that they somehow they believe that understanding means accepting. This is where disagreement leads to confrontation. I personally try to avoid conflict at almost any coast. I don’t like putting people in awkward positions where they would feel as if I am on the offensive against them and they have to defend themselves. I put others feelings and sometimes opinions before my own and take the more passive but not resentful route of dealing with conflict. My fear of confrontation is being rejected and hated. I feel that any problem I have with someone else I can solve it by changing myself. My avoidance of confrontation due to fear of rejection with others leads to inner conflict and rejection of myself. From personal experience this is not a healthy way to deal with conflict and only leads to explosions when a chord too close to home is hit. The only way to keep others and more importantly yourself happy is to be honest and upfront with people.
Debate is central to our society and necessary if we want to avoid a dictatorship. Discussing differences of opinion in a peaceful way is healthy and the exchange of ideas can lead to new outlooks and discoveries that can shape our world. However, confrontation can also become negative if one bottles up their emotions or forces their ideas upon someone else. One might try to avoid confrontation for fear of being proven wrong. But a lack of communication can lead to dissent, betrayal or even war. For this reason, it is better to take a risk and share your opinions with others. Even if you are proven wrong, you may learn something.
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